Comments on: How Do You Work This Thing? http://colindullaghan.com/blog/2008/08/30/how-do-you-work-this-thing/ I hope I can continue to create blogs and that these blogs will have beauty for some others. Tue, 10 Apr 2012 20:22:57 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Chantelle http://colindullaghan.com/blog/2008/08/30/how-do-you-work-this-thing/comment-page-1/#comment-2602 Chantelle Mon, 22 Sep 2008 16:58:00 +0000 http://colindullaghan.com/blog/2008/08/30/how-do-you-work-this-thing/#comment-2602 Heard this ad on the radio this weekend and again this morning. Sounds good! My husband thought I was a little crazy paying attention to an ad. I was curious what you ended up with. Heard this ad on the radio this weekend and again this morning. Sounds good! My husband thought I was a little crazy paying attention to an ad. I was curious what you ended up with.

]]> By: Anonymous http://colindullaghan.com/blog/2008/08/30/how-do-you-work-this-thing/comment-page-1/#comment-2574 Anonymous Wed, 03 Sep 2008 16:26:00 +0000 http://colindullaghan.com/blog/2008/08/30/how-do-you-work-this-thing/#comment-2574 Katie and I are on the same wave length. Kids/babies are like dogs. You said you are an animal person, so you should have no problems. Don't sweat it, Col. <br/><br/>-vz Katie and I are on the same wave length. Kids/babies are like dogs. You said you are an animal person, so you should have no problems. Don’t sweat it, Col.

-vz

]]> By: "Love the life you have." http://colindullaghan.com/blog/2008/08/30/how-do-you-work-this-thing/comment-page-1/#comment-2573 "Love the life you have." Wed, 03 Sep 2008 03:55:00 +0000 http://colindullaghan.com/blog/2008/08/30/how-do-you-work-this-thing/#comment-2573 My little Chastity likes you, too. It will just come to you and life is all about not planning once you become a father. Everyting will fall into place. My little Chastity likes you, too. It will just come to you and life is all about not planning once you become a father. Everyting will fall into place.

]]> By: laurowens http://colindullaghan.com/blog/2008/08/30/how-do-you-work-this-thing/comment-page-1/#comment-2572 laurowens Tue, 02 Sep 2008 16:38:00 +0000 http://colindullaghan.com/blog/2008/08/30/how-do-you-work-this-thing/#comment-2572 Dyrs was the same way, he instantly changed when Gianna was born. And Gianna likes you just fine, she will even more when we get to spend more time together. lol. Dyrs was the same way, he instantly changed when Gianna was born. And Gianna likes you just fine, she will even more when we get to spend more time together. lol.

]]> By: Anonymous http://colindullaghan.com/blog/2008/08/30/how-do-you-work-this-thing/comment-page-1/#comment-2571 Anonymous Tue, 02 Sep 2008 16:10:00 +0000 http://colindullaghan.com/blog/2008/08/30/how-do-you-work-this-thing/#comment-2571 I was definitely *not* a "baby person" for most of my life. They made me uncomfortable, and I sensed that they were uncomfortable around me, too. I think it's because we were the youngest on the side of the family we saw the most often. Even little kids...it was like I didn't know what to say to them, how to act around them, what they were thinking. Then, one specific child touched my life and I fell in love with him. At first it was awkward being around him, but honestly that didn't last very long. It was like we got used to each other. I stopped worrying about what to say or think, or what he thought, and I just started being *me* around him. That's when I learned the secret that natural "baby people" know. You just smile, be nice, and be yourself. How ironic it is that now I work with kids every day and keep getting more and more comfortable around them, and am actually good at it (at least I'd like to think so :)! They're kind of like dogs in that they can sense fear/anxiety. They know when you're uncomfortable around them, and that makes them think there's something wrong with them (because they're completely egocentric), which makes them want to avoid you or appear afraid of you. You just have to "fake it 'till you make it" with stranger kids, but with your own, you will be in love already, and I promise it will come to you. It came to me, and I'm eternally grateful to that little boy. <br/><br/>You'll make an awesome father. I just know it :)<br/><br/>-YS I was definitely *not* a “baby person” for most of my life. They made me uncomfortable, and I sensed that they were uncomfortable around me, too. I think it’s because we were the youngest on the side of the family we saw the most often. Even little kids…it was like I didn’t know what to say to them, how to act around them, what they were thinking. Then, one specific child touched my life and I fell in love with him. At first it was awkward being around him, but honestly that didn’t last very long. It was like we got used to each other. I stopped worrying about what to say or think, or what he thought, and I just started being *me* around him. That’s when I learned the secret that natural “baby people” know. You just smile, be nice, and be yourself. How ironic it is that now I work with kids every day and keep getting more and more comfortable around them, and am actually good at it (at least I’d like to think so :)! They’re kind of like dogs in that they can sense fear/anxiety. They know when you’re uncomfortable around them, and that makes them think there’s something wrong with them (because they’re completely egocentric), which makes them want to avoid you or appear afraid of you. You just have to “fake it ’till you make it” with stranger kids, but with your own, you will be in love already, and I promise it will come to you. It came to me, and I’m eternally grateful to that little boy.

You’ll make an awesome father. I just know it :)

-YS

]]> By: JustMe http://colindullaghan.com/blog/2008/08/30/how-do-you-work-this-thing/comment-page-1/#comment-2570 JustMe Sun, 31 Aug 2008 23:41:00 +0000 http://colindullaghan.com/blog/2008/08/30/how-do-you-work-this-thing/#comment-2570 I don't think there's much instinct to it, but babies are much sturdier than they look and the whole "boot camp" atmosphere of round the clock care gets you up to speed within a week, I'd say.<br/><br/>The most frustrating part for me as a mom was breastfeeding. I had the same feelings: Shouldn't this be natural and easy? But it was not. It took a lot of work, and working to relax so it would work.<br/><br/>Making babies and parenting is God's way of letting us share in the act of creation--how amazing a gift is that. Being a mom is the only thing in life that really matters to me. Once you've had kids, things like going through a car wash, or spotting a ladybug, are just dull and empty without a kid around to make them magical and exciting.<br/><br/>Wishing you all the best.<br/><br/>Challenges for me in re: to your script? Taking off training wheels, converting Transformers, and buying jock straps! I don’t think there’s much instinct to it, but babies are much sturdier than they look and the whole “boot camp” atmosphere of round the clock care gets you up to speed within a week, I’d say.

The most frustrating part for me as a mom was breastfeeding. I had the same feelings: Shouldn’t this be natural and easy? But it was not. It took a lot of work, and working to relax so it would work.

Making babies and parenting is God’s way of letting us share in the act of creation–how amazing a gift is that. Being a mom is the only thing in life that really matters to me. Once you’ve had kids, things like going through a car wash, or spotting a ladybug, are just dull and empty without a kid around to make them magical and exciting.

Wishing you all the best.

Challenges for me in re: to your script? Taking off training wheels, converting Transformers, and buying jock straps!

]]> By: Anonymous http://colindullaghan.com/blog/2008/08/30/how-do-you-work-this-thing/comment-page-1/#comment-2569 Anonymous Sun, 31 Aug 2008 23:22:00 +0000 http://colindullaghan.com/blog/2008/08/30/how-do-you-work-this-thing/#comment-2569 You might not like the kid too much in the beginning, but you will love it. That's what bonding is all about. It doesn't happen overnight. The kid might seem like a wailing, pooping baby monkey at first, but you will make a choice to love it now matter what, and as all of you grow together, and you unconsiouly and consiously pass on who and what you are, you will wonder what you ever did without your darling. And when you see flashes of yourself in the kid, you'll be prouder than you ever knew.<br/><br/>Jan You might not like the kid too much in the beginning, but you will love it. That’s what bonding is all about. It doesn’t happen overnight. The kid might seem like a wailing, pooping baby monkey at first, but you will make a choice to love it now matter what, and as all of you grow together, and you unconsiouly and consiously pass on who and what you are, you will wonder what you ever did without your darling. And when you see flashes of yourself in the kid, you’ll be prouder than you ever knew.

Jan

]]> By: Chantelle http://colindullaghan.com/blog/2008/08/30/how-do-you-work-this-thing/comment-page-1/#comment-2568 Chantelle Sun, 31 Aug 2008 16:11:00 +0000 http://colindullaghan.com/blog/2008/08/30/how-do-you-work-this-thing/#comment-2568 For some reason ballet instantly came to mind instead of shooting free throws. No idea why - never took ballet myself.<br/><br/>Also, try searching for vegetarian alternatives to fish oil. Let me know if you find some anywhere. I honestly haven't searched for them. For some reason ballet instantly came to mind instead of shooting free throws. No idea why – never took ballet myself.

Also, try searching for vegetarian alternatives to fish oil. Let me know if you find some anywhere. I honestly haven’t searched for them.

]]> By: Just Plain Jane http://colindullaghan.com/blog/2008/08/30/how-do-you-work-this-thing/comment-page-1/#comment-2567 Just Plain Jane Sun, 31 Aug 2008 15:04:00 +0000 http://colindullaghan.com/blog/2008/08/30/how-do-you-work-this-thing/#comment-2567 The fact that you're concerned about it, is proof that you'll do okay. Our son's first child was born when he was about to turn 50. It's been an amazing thing to watch his method of parenting. There's no one right way. Just be genuine and the whole process will unfold. The fact that you’re concerned about it, is proof that you’ll do okay. Our son’s first child was born when he was about to turn 50. It’s been an amazing thing to watch his method of parenting. There’s no one right way. Just be genuine and the whole process will unfold.

]]> By: Anonymous http://colindullaghan.com/blog/2008/08/30/how-do-you-work-this-thing/comment-page-1/#comment-2566 Anonymous Sun, 31 Aug 2008 14:14:00 +0000 http://colindullaghan.com/blog/2008/08/30/how-do-you-work-this-thing/#comment-2566 Col-<br/>There were lots of things I didn't do very well when you kids were growing up, but I'm very flattered that you didn't notice. But, that's kind of the "deal" between a parent and a child. You are undoubtedly the best father your baby ever had, and the way you father your baby is the way that baby will understand that "fathering" should be. 'Sort of a "Catch 22," huh? Like. the way you do it is the right way, so it had better be RIGHT! I wouldn't suggest that you and Penny toss the child to one another across the room, but you seemed fine with it. Now, Katie would for-sure say that's not right, and , as I said, I wouldn't suggest it, but it was a good thing at the time.<br/><br/>You know the story of how I knew I liked you -- that day in the car that I will never, ever forget. Well, you'll have your moment of truth, too. But you already love your baby, so that's cinch. And your baby will love you immediately, too -'probably already does. I wasn't very "good with kids" until you came along.<br/><br/>One funny thing I noticed about your post is the last sentence. If the script you're referencing is the assignment you're trying to complete, then I'm sure you'll finish it, and it will be at least wonderful if not marvelous, as is all your work. However, the parenting script is never finished -- I'm still writing mine. It is the finest thing I have ever been privileged to do.<br/><br/>Love and hugs<br/>Mom Col-
There were lots of things I didn’t do very well when you kids were growing up, but I’m very flattered that you didn’t notice. But, that’s kind of the “deal” between a parent and a child. You are undoubtedly the best father your baby ever had, and the way you father your baby is the way that baby will understand that “fathering” should be. ‘Sort of a “Catch 22,” huh? Like. the way you do it is the right way, so it had better be RIGHT! I wouldn’t suggest that you and Penny toss the child to one another across the room, but you seemed fine with it. Now, Katie would for-sure say that’s not right, and , as I said, I wouldn’t suggest it, but it was a good thing at the time.

You know the story of how I knew I liked you — that day in the car that I will never, ever forget. Well, you’ll have your moment of truth, too. But you already love your baby, so that’s cinch. And your baby will love you immediately, too -’probably already does. I wasn’t very “good with kids” until you came along.

One funny thing I noticed about your post is the last sentence. If the script you’re referencing is the assignment you’re trying to complete, then I’m sure you’ll finish it, and it will be at least wonderful if not marvelous, as is all your work. However, the parenting script is never finished — I’m still writing mine. It is the finest thing I have ever been privileged to do.

Love and hugs
Mom

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